I Am a Racist

"That other really racist guy" is not the standard to measure ourselves by.

Destination Unknown

What you get from the journey depends on how you see it.

The Strength of Sisters

My house is for sale, which means I've become a day laborer. Weeding, mowing, vacuuming, mopping, pruning, hauling...and my most significant accomplishment so far, removing a tree. Spring came and that pine just curled up its branches and said I cannot do this anymore. I mean, you can read the dying agonies there, can't you? … Continue reading The Strength of Sisters

Fightin’ Words

The first rule of fight club is you do not talk about fight club. The second rule of fight club is you do not talk about fight club. Uh...sorry. Gonna break the rule. Guys! Over here! Fight club at The Bachelorette mansion! Or, at least those were the only parts of the most recent episode I … Continue reading Fightin’ Words

Being Catty: The Right Reasons

Nobody takes action for no reason. The reason might be awful, but it’s still a reason ("I’m mugging you because I want your money"). Or it might be unconscious ("I can't explain why I'm yelling!") but it’s there. So when the reason for a person’s actions aren’t immediately apparent, we take note, and if the … Continue reading Being Catty: The Right Reasons

Being Catty: Rachel’s Red Flag Roundup

Confession: I have a dark history with the international embarrassment known as American reality TV. And I’m owning it. Leaning in, so to speak. So for those who followed years ago, Being Catty, my Bachelor/Bachelorette blog, is back from its long nap. For those who don’t know what I’m talking about...Guys: The Bachelorette starts this … Continue reading Being Catty: Rachel’s Red Flag Roundup

The Power of Projection

The allure and danger of projecting onto our leaders.

Of Fruit, Farmers, and a Free Press

A few years ago, I came across this gem of a headline in the Arab News: So...it turns out that not all fertilizers are equal. Human waste makes your lettuce smell and taste like doo-doo. Noted. And when it comes to irrigation, best just stick to water. As much as I appreciated the gardening tips … Continue reading Of Fruit, Farmers, and a Free Press

20 Steps to Perfection

We’ve all met them—the people who, on hearing that you’re a writer, say, “I’ve thought of writing a book, too!” They’re adorable. Precious. But you can tell that they (like most people) have no clue what happens between “I have an idea” and “Come buy my book.” Even to active writers, the process can be … Continue reading 20 Steps to Perfection

S Is for Stranger

Teaching English and looking for common language with Eritrean refugees. This is a picture of my Saturday morning this week. Because it’s not what you know but whom you know, I suddenly find myself teaching English to refugees. I have no qualifications, no experience, no expertise, but I do have a friend who has all those things. … Continue reading S Is for Stranger